All About Bondage, aka Kink 101

So, you’ve read ’50 Shades of Grey’, and now you want to start spanking and paddling and tying your partner up. That’s great! Just make sure you’re doing it safely.

Handcuffs seem like a great idea, but in reality, they can be unsafe. If your partner is someone who likes to pull at their restraints (or, if you plan on doing things to them that may make them pull against their bonds or jerk/flail), get leather cuffs instead! I personally love these locking leather cuffs, but have heard great things about the Fresh, Hearts, and Aslan cuffs.

Rope is also something you may wish to try! This rope is a cotton blend, despite what the company claims, and it a decent beginner’s rope. Make sure that you don’t tie anyone too tightly, that you have emergency shears close by, just in case your partner needs to get free in a hurry, and never leave someone alone who is tied up!

Ballgags are something fun, if you like the thought of muffling your partner’s moans. It doesn’t make things entirely quiet, but does soften the sounds the wearer can make. Silicone balls have no taste or scent, and I rec the Beginner’s Ball Gag and Aslan’s gag! Also, if you’re interested in a different look, why not check out this bit gag? With a gag, you can’t clearly hear what your partner is saying, so you should have some other way for them to tell you that they want things to stop! Have them hold keys, or something else that will make a loud sound when dropped.

Does the thought of a spanking make your pants tight or your panties damp? Why not try out some impact toys? Crops, paddles, slappers, and floggers can all be deliciously painful, and can pink up a bottom’s bottom nicely. Want to know where safe places to hit are? Check out this cool diagram! (The places that are highlighted in green are the least likely to cause damage to your bottom.)

Nipple clamps can also be a fun way to introduce kink into your sex life! While butterfly clamps are not for the faint of heart (or the sensitive of nipple!), tweezer style clamps are much more forgiving, as are these!

The most important thing to do before trying any new kinky activities is to talk about them with your partner! Don’t just spring kink onto them, make sure that they know what’s going to happen and are ok with it! And, above all, be safe and have fun!

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